[ecko_quote source="Proverbs 18:21"]The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat it's fruit.[/ecko_quote]
For 6,000 years, history has been written and rewritten by the victor. Throughout the ages, as battles were fought and won, the surviving army recorded history from their viewpoint. Today we live in a different world. Our lives are recorded. Our texts and voice messages are digitally recorded and stored indefinitely. Because of the threat of terrorism against innocent people, most schools, churches, and public buildings have security cameras and recorders, inside and outside, recording every action and word.
Years ago, if you had a fit of anger and lashed out with your words, you could possibly get away with it because it was only recorded in the minds of those who heard it. But in the last few years of recorded history, you can't. Times have changed.
When telephone answering machines were new technology, I had a friend who would talk to them. If someone made him angry, he would return their call. If they didn't answer when the answering device picked up, he would let loose on them and his violent message was recorded. Later, when he calmed down, he would regret what he had said. But it was too late. The words were recorded.
Recently, I met/counselled a couple who was having marital problems. It all came to light when the husband accidentally left a message for his girlfriend on his wife's phone. Of course, he did not intend for his wife to hear the message, but his words were recorded whether he wanted them to be or not. He went to great lengths to keep his wife from finding the message, but he could not erase his words.
What many Christians don't understand is that their words contain power whether they are recorded or not. Because words are the spirit (John 6:63), they can produce life or death. Heard or unheard, words are recorded in the realm of the spirit. The Bible tells us very clearly that death and life are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). Thus, the words spoken from the heart by a believer can create or destroy fellowships and families.
Anger is a by-product of fear. Perfect love casts out fear (1 John 4:18) God has empowered us with His grace to soar above the works of the flesh and as we develop our walk of love, fits of anger and rage will fade away.